The “judging” of this particular personality type comes from the standard of “getting things done” and “efficiency”. “J” types need structure and prefer to plan, schedule and organize their lives rather than shoot from the hip. J’s can be relied upon to maintain tradition, to take care of details, to keep things neat and orderly and follow the book. Cliches such as, “if it ain’t broke, don’t fix it”, and “a place for everything and everything in its place” were invented by J type personalities. J types believe that there is a “right and wrong” way to do things and stick to the right way as much as possible.
J’s do not feel the need to “personalize” their work, unlike their P counterparts. They are perfectly fine with doing things the conventional way and not “reinventing the wheel”. In fact, in their extremes, J’s can be quite rigid in their routines and become stressed when those routines are disturbed. J’s do not mind being predictable and in many cases may hold this in high regard. Many J types suffer from the need to be in control and struggle when it comes to the need for flexibility. They like their world to be organized and predictable and Life seldom cooperates with their efforts.
J’s are not happy until everything is organized and completed. They prefer the dishes to be done, leftovers put away and everything cleaned before they sit down to relax. While this is an admirable trait, J’s can become caught up in “doing” and forget to be present in the moment and enjoy the company of family and friends. They can also become quite judgmental of others who do not “pull their weight” or live up to their standards, although many are caregivers, guardians and protectors and often sacrifice gladly. Like Feelers, J’s can be easily exploited since they are willing to do the work and may often simply do what needs to be done without asking or even thinking.
J’s often hold themselves and others by a high set of “performance” standards. They may be quite harsh on themselves regarding their behavior and level of success. Even though they may be able to work everyone else under the table, they may feel they have not done enough or performed adequately. While they need to accept their love for efficiency, cleanliness and service, they will need to practice Surrender and letting go of the need to control and serve others. Many will need to learn to put themselves first and get their own needs met as well as taking care of others. J’s may find it difficult to say no and often end up with far too many responsibilities on their plate. They are the classic enablers and rescuers, preferring to simply jump in and do the work without considering the personal cost. J’s need to learn that their personal worth does not come from performance or behavior, but simply who they are and their place in the Universe.
