It may seem harsh to say that you built the cage in which you now find yourself trapped, but at the risk of sounding harsh, it is an aspect of the Truth. This does not mean that you are responsible for the trauma you may have endured, nor that there may have been a different course of action you could have taken in response to that trauma. It simply means that your mind reacted to your situation and set into motion beliefs, defenses and coping strategies for your protection. This is how the Ego is developed.
We grow up believing that the Ego is who we are, our identity, when in fact, it represents very little of our complete nature. In order to protect us, our mind creates a long list of restrictions, limitations, guilt, shame, false beliefs and deceptions so that prior trauma which we may have encountered is not repeated. All of this self-deception becomes quite sophisticated. So sophisticated, in fact, that it becomes nearly impossible to discern illusion from Truth.
Of course hearing that we are responsible for having trapped ourselves in a Life that is miserable and self-defeating is certainly far from liberating. However, after the initial “go fuck yourself” reaction, the realization that we are actually capable of rescuing ourselves becomes appealing, especially when the toll of living from our Ego becomes unbearable.
To say that only we are able to free ourselves does not mean that we must make this journey alone. What it does mean is that we must confront the beliefs of victimization, co-dependency and lack in order to take the necessary steps toward self discovery. We may enlist the aid of a therapist, spiritual leader or even a Tarot Reader, but it is up to us to muster the Courage to face our shadow self and flawed beliefs and let go of all that we thought we were in order to realize who we truly are.
I recently heard a preacher on Youtube put down the notion of loving oneself and extol the need to love others. The fact is that one cannot truly love another if s/he does not have proper love of self. Those of us who are co-dependent types have no difficulty in sacrificing our own needs for others and others have no difficulty in receiving that sacrifice. The problem with this type of thinking is that it is neither healthy nor proper. It requires a true love of self to speak one’s truth, set proper boundaries and refuse to be treated without respect or proper consideration. For some of us, it takes a lifetime to learn this lesson.
The journey to self discovery is long and difficult. It is a journey of death and re-birth. The alternative, however, is simply death without re-birth. For those who embark on The Fool’s Journey, that is simply unacceptable.